Saturday, 30 March 2019

What's Yours?

Every empty moment in line at Delhi Metro is a chance to catch up on
Every ride is a time to scroll our Instagram feed or for
Facebook updates.
Every second of silence, begs to be filled with music, videos
We fill every waking moment with productivity or entertaining ourselves.
We the humans are defined by constant activity. Both day and night, our
relentlessness has generated millions and billions of money for the
Corporate MNC’s while leaving us suffering from life crises and fake relationships.
It has gotten to that extent that we actually fear silence and solitude.
We feel the need to fill every empty space of our lives with any sort of activity,
distractions or entertainment 
just to block out our very own thoughts.
We are that empty vessels of activity  who are  constantly Doing things but
not truly living.
Are We?

Picture Credit: Shutterstock

Our career is defined by how fast we’re achieving something by climbing the
corporate ladder.
Our popularity is defined by Instagram likes
Our relationships are defined not by the depth but by their usefulness.
Our success is defined by the amount of money in our bank.
Like others I’ve also been dwelling on this concept for a while, and I’m convinced
that: who we are matters far more than what we do.
I’m still trying to learn how to live in being me concept and for that I don’t have
many answers. My personal compass is now pointed toward trying to become a
person of character rather than a machine.
What’s Yours?

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Monday, 25 March 2019


People say the internet and social media contribute to the outgrowth of depression and anxiety in
the society today. I don’t know what people? exactly, but
 You know  you can google that shit. It’s almost universally accepted theory today.
And, I think it’s easy to see why.
You got your phone in your hand, you can easily open up Instagram(because it’s my favorite), Snapchat,
Twitter, WhatsApp, Facebook  and  boom, immediately, someone is doing something you’re not doing,
and you feel.
Well, you feel a little bit like a loooooser. That is, unless you’re doing something too.

But even if you’re doing something, someone else’s something is always better than your something.
It’s kind of liked to the high school. There’s the pack of cool kids having all their fun, doing wonderful
stuff on the weekends, and then there’s you. Why can’t I be doing that?
It’s only when you get older, and you learn that the cool kid group actually peaked in high school  
There’s really only one life that matters.
Your life.

And the people in it. You can spend a lifetime looking at things outside of yourself, believing they are better than what you already have, but the truth is the complete opposite.
There are goals, of course. We should always have benchmarks we are trying to hit, places we want to see ourselves, lives we are trying to have. But, we should also be incredibly grateful for the lives we’re already living. Even if it’s just delivering pizza or working at the local grocery store. There’s beauty and life in that too.

Saturday, 6 October 2018

“Husband is not the master of wife”

“Any provision of law affecting individual dignity and equality of women invites wrath of  constitution. It’s time to say that husband is not the master of wife. Legal soverignity of one sex over other sex is wrong”, read Chief Justice of India Dipak Misra from the judgment written by him and Justice A M Khanwilkar. The judgment on this issue was headed by other four member namely Justice AM Khanwilkar Justices RF Nariman, DY Chandrachud and Indu Malhotra.
Adultery is not a crime
Under Section 497 of the Indian Penal Code (IPC) Adultery was an offence and a convict could be sentenced to five-year-jail term. Section defined adultery as an offence committed by a man against a married man for having sex with wife of another man.
This all started when an Italy-based Indian businessman Joseph Shine, who hails from Kerala, filed a Public Interest Litigation (PIL) last year challenging IPC Section 497. He contended that the law is discriminatory (unfair/ prejudiced).
"A woman cannot be asked to think as a man or as how the society desires. Equality is the governing parameter. All historical perceptions should evaporate, he added.
The bench further said it was on the view that there cannot be a patriarchal monarchy over the daughter or husband monarchy over the wife.
The adultery law first came into light in 1951 under the Yusuf Aziz vs State of Bombay case. Aziz argued that the adultery law violate the fundamental right of equality guaranteed under Articles 14 and 15 (Right to Equality, Article 14 provides equality before the law or equal protection within the territory of India, Whereas Article 15 provides prohibition of discrimination on grounds of religion,race,caste,sex or place of birth) of the Constitution.
Pic Courtesy: The Hindu

The  argument in the court hearing was for Section 497, governing adultery law, discriminated against men by not making women equally culpable in an adulterous relationship. It was also argued that adultery law gave a license to women to commit the crime. Later in 1954, the Supreme Court ruled that Section 497 was valid. It held that Section 497 did not give a license to women to commit adultery. The judgment said that making a special provision for women to escape culpability was constitutionally valid under Article 15(3) (Nothing in this article shall prevent the State from making any special provision for women and children) that allows such a law.
Moreover, in an interesting observation, the Supreme Court said in the judgment that "it is commonly accepted that it is the man who is the seducer, and not the woman." The Supreme Court stated that women could only be a victim of adultery and not a perpetrator of the crime under Section 497. However, despite declaring women as "victim only" in the occurrence of the crime of adultery, the court did not allow them to even file a complaint.
Next judgment regarding Section 497 was in 1985 Sowmithri Vishnu vs Union of India case.
In Sowmithri Vishnu case, the SC held that women need not be included as an aggrieved party in the name of making the law even handed. It also explained as to why women should not be involved in prosecution in the cases of adultery.
The Supreme Court held that men were not allowed to prosecute their wives for the offence of adultery in order to protect the sanctity of marriage.
The Supreme Court also rejected the argument that unmarried women should be brought under the purview of the adultery law. The argument was that if an unmarried man establishes adulterous relationship with a married woman, he is liable for punishment, but if an unmarried woman engages in a sexual intercourse with a married man, she would not be held culpable for the offence of adultery, even though both disturb the sanctity of marriage.
Pic Courtesy: The Hindu

Marriage does not mean ceding autonomy of one to the other. Ability to make sexual choices is essential to human liberty. Even within private zones, an individual should be allowed her choice. Society imposes impossible virtues on a woman. Raises her to a pedestal. Confines her to spaces. Objectifies her and says she should be pure. But society has no qualms to commit rape, honour killings, sex-determination and infanticide.

Another raging debate should be whether marital rape be criminalised. Considering developments in other developed and progressive countries as well as the fact that Indian society, too, has undergone changes, it is time to make marital rape a criminal offence.
Even though many countries around the world have taken such strong and progressive steps, India is one of the 36 countries where marital rape is still not a criminal offence and is untouched by the lawmakers of our country.

Sunday, 22 April 2018

You tolerated me.

I wanted to play tough

Thought I could do all just on my own
But even Superwoman
Sometimes needed Superman's soul
(Lines Courtesy: Helium)
I never saw it coming. Things have gotten so bad with us lately. I suppose it was only a matter of time before it would come to this. I am not sure why I am allowing myself to feel so guilty. In fact, it was for fear that I would find myself in this position.
P.C: Pinterest

We have changed so much — in some ways for the better, but largely not. At least not together, anyway. I seemingly disappeared slowly as you scrolled endlessly through your phone seeking something to hold your attention  but  never me.
I spoke up to you about it a few times. Even when I did speak up, it seemed to me you chose to do very little about it or rather NOTHING about it. The resentment multiplied and, instead, I slipped deeper and deeper into silence (though I can never be serious :-p ). Not surprisingly but it became lonely there. I found myself trying to fight for us, but it takes two and it never connected.

I can’t say exactly where or when it happened. Only that it did and now I can’t undo it. I can’t even feel all that bad as it was all my mistake. They say we find love when we are least looking for it. I wasn’t looking, I swear. It hit me so unexpectedly, you hit on me. With you so absent in the physical and emotional sense. Maybe you will start to realize it, when I will began spending more time with someone else. It will sound like an excuse to you, I know, but you will gradually realize that I was suffering from the neglect of our relationship and it left me vulnerable. I remember our good times when I felt accepted, valued, supported. I felt beautiful and strong and like all of the pieces of me finally make sense.

(P.S Not my story)

Sunday, 18 February 2018

My Tuna Fish

Have you ever lived that moment when you are already in the train, and you know you will be late anyway, but you are still worried? The same way you are in my life and I am in a state of vulnerability of losing you. I don’t know how to say this to you, but now I might say this that I have nothing to lose. I have already lost everything. If you are reading this you might already know that I am literally broken from inside. You may not have known this but you affected me deeply to a point where I list myself in loving you. There was a time when I used to see my whole life with you, but you shattered my dreams. I have never given so much to someone or cared so much.

Remember the first time when we met, I was driven by your ambition, discipline and your black kurti and a cute little bindi. Slowly and steadily, I fell for you, a love I thought would bring out the best in me or rather us. I don't know why destiny brought us together as we are completely opposite to each other, you are completely a giggly, cute, sundar and good chef kind of a person which you mention always.
I had everything. I felt so alone even while with you. You made me feel alone and vulnerable. I am so much more than this. but It’s okay to retreat someone sometimes. Because a creative life is scary as hell. It takes a lot out of us.
But you returned my love with lies. It does not matter how handsome I look for you or what all I have done for you. I never told you but I did received messages and people saying that you are not worth and you are cheating on me. I decided to ignore it and trust you. No other man will give you as much as I did or love you as much as I do.
All I wanted was love, care and affection that I have for you and wanted the same in return. I always wished the best for you. You never appreciated my love, no self esteem left. You are a very practical person, and I do understand, money is important in everyone’s life, but what will you do by earning so much when you will not have anyone to talk too.

Wednesday, 8 November 2017

The Old her Is Slipping Away And That Scares her too much...

“A year from now you may wish you had started today.”Karen Lamb
She was honest, she was only 20 years old and find life hard, she felt like a beginner, she still find herself clueless sometimes, she gets scared and sometimes dread things. But then again she find things are hopeful, she is productive, she is positive and grateful to whatever she have.
She has experienced moments of brilliance when she felt like her work is on fire but then there are also time when she allow things to affect her too much, to drain the life from her chest until it is hollow.

It sometimes feel like losing her foot in the big climb of tree, it is like her grip has slipped.
Writing makes her feel good, as it keeps on reminding her how to stay up, when it seems like things are geared to keep her down.

"Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Maria Robinson

It may sometimes feel like you should have started to change your life earlier, when you were a kid or in your early 20’s. Or that you should have been born in those right situations, like to be born with a golden spoon. It may feel like it is too late for you.
I understand that how it feels like when one may not be able to change their life in any way they want. There are real limits in everyone’s life and personal development and that is not magic that can just fix anything easily.

#you already know what to do
May be you know it, it could be your social life of your personal life, your confidence, money or health. Or relax for some days and think about it. Take time to focus on this because if you really want something then it becomes a whole lot easier to keep going. Or let your consciousness guide you, ask yourself what would you like to explore in life.
Always remember it is you and only you that can help yourself.

Thursday, 31 August 2017

One year of Togetherness!

In a Journey, the companion is as important as the destination. In my journey till now, I have been fortunate enough to have the company of some wonderful people, who made the journey seem more worth living. It seems it was just yesterday when I met you for the first time and on the coming days we are completing our one big fat year of togetherness. An year of being, a year of happiness, sadness a year of love, and a year of Memories. And memories that are going to be with me for now to forever.

Delhi, we got committed to each other in September last year. I came to know the city’s likes and dislikes, but still there is something left. Still there is an unending quest to know each other. While every passing day I have seen the love grow and our bond getting stronger. Differences are getting erased. Surely there were times, when this city has hurt me or not lived up to my expectations but that’s how we got to know each other best. I don’t really remember where this year flew but it always seems that it is just a small while of us being together. Sometimes I have looked for reasons of why I love you but I did not find any reason. I figured this out there is no reason of why I love you. I love you because you are you. For the person you are and for how you make me feel when we are together. Its like we are half one completing the other. This is our first year of togetherness and there are many more to come. Which will be definitely filled with beautiful memories and yes lots and lots of love. 


I want to do it all.. I also want to do absolutely nothing!!

I am still discovering who I am, but at twenty I still have plenty of time for discovering, don’t you think?

Blogging is that passion that lit a spark on that dream of mine which made a place where I could share myself with others but sooner or later I realized that my real dream was helping others be heard by lending them a voice. Discipline is the art which I want to master. I feel myself like a Taxi Driver who is completely absurd regarding her destination yet retaining my “INNOCENCE”.